Intentional Dating
A Smarter, Healthier Way to Approach Relationships
Dating doesn’t have to feel chaotic, discouraging, or emotionally exhausting. Yet for so many people, it does.
If you’ve ever found yourself wondering “Why do I keep choosing the same kind of partner?”, “Why does this feel so hard?”, or “How do I date without losing myself?” — you’re not broken. You’re just missing a framework.
That’s why we created Intentional Dating, a structured, psychoeducational course designed to help you date with clarity, confidence, and emotional health — instead of guesswork, burnout, or repeated heartbreak.
What Is Intentional Dating?
Intentional Dating is a clinically informed course developed by a psychotherapist to help individuals approach dating thoughtfully, purposefully, and with greater self-awareness.
Rather than focusing on tactics, scripts, or surface-level “dating rules,” this course centers on you — your patterns, values, attachment style, beliefs, and emotional responses — so that dating becomes a process of discernment rather than self-abandonment.
This is not about perfection or rushing toward a relationship; it’s about learning how to date well.
Clinical Orientation & Therapeutic Framework
The course is grounded in evidence-based psychological principles and draws from multiple therapeutic modalities, including:
- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
- Attachment Theory
- Solution-Focused Therapy
- Relational and systems-based perspectives
- Values-based decision-making
While this course is psychoeducational (not therapy), it is designed with the same clinical thoughtfulness and ethical care you would expect in a therapeutic setting.
Who This Course Is For?
Intentional Dating is ideal for individuals who:
- Feel stuck in repetitive or unhealthy dating patterns
- Struggle with boundaries, people-pleasing, or over-functioning
- Want to understand their attachment style and relational triggers
- Desire a values-aligned, emotionally healthy relationship
- Are tired of “winging it” and ready to date with intention
- Or even young people just entering the dating world who want to get it right
Whether you’re just beginning, newly single, re-entering the dating world after a long break, or simply want to approach dating differently, this course meets you where you are.
Why Intentional Dating Matters
Dating doesn’t need more pressure, rules, or performative advice.
It needs clarity, self-trust, and emotional literacy.
Intentional Dating helps you slow the process down, tune into yourself, and make decisions rooted in values rather than fear, chemistry alone, or external expectations.
Because dating isn’t just about finding someone —
it’s about staying connected to yourself along the way.
Flexible Formats to Fit Real Life
We recognize that time, energy, and finances vary — so Intentional Dating will be offered in multiple formats to meet people where they are.
Depending on availability, options may include:
- Live group sessions (online and in-person / location for in-person option is Houston, Tx)
- Self-paced digital content
- Hybrid or workshop-style offerings
- Tiered pricing to support different financial budgets
Our goal is accessibility without sacrificing clinical integrity.
VIP Access
Intentional Dating is designed to prepare you to be more intentional about the dating process; it's the work you do before you date so that you can date well. But what about when the course is over and you've done the work? Now you're ready to step back into the dating world, which can be a little scary.
At the VIP level, there will be bonus materials with real-world applications for when you're actually dating, as well as access to a VIP members-only Facebook community where you can vibe with like-minded individuals who are walking the same path you are.
Weekly Course Overview
The course is structured into six focused modules, each building upon the last:
Week 1: Self-Awareness & Dating History
We begin by identifying patterns — past relationships, common dynamics, emotional triggers, and recurring themes — to understand what has shaped your dating experiences so far.
Week 2: Values, Needs, & Non-Negotiables
This module helps you clarify what truly matters to you, distinguish preferences from needs, and define healthy non-negotiables — so you’re not negotiating yourself away.
Week 3: Attachment Styles & Emotional Triggers
You’ll learn how attachment styles influence attraction, communication, and conflict, and how to recognize (and respond to) your own emotional triggers in dating.
Week 4: Boundaries, Communication, & Pacing
This week focuses on setting and maintaining boundaries, communicating clearly, and pacing relationships in a way that supports emotional safety and discernment.
Week 5: Cognitive Distortions, Biases, & Dating Beliefs
We explore unhelpful thought patterns — such as catastrophizing, mind-reading, or scarcity thinking — and how they quietly sabotage dating decisions.
Week 6: Integration & Intentional Next Steps
The final module brings everything together, helping you create a personalized, intentional dating framework you can continue using long after the course ends.
Meet the Teacher
Meet Tammy, a former “bad picker,” certified poor-choice survivor, and proud alum of the School of Broken Hearts.
All kidding aside, Intentional Dating has been a passion project for Tammy for many years. While you can read about her professional credentials on her bio, what that page can't begin to capture is why this course exists.
What it doesn’t tell you is how deeply committed Tammy is to helping others avoid the same painful patterns she once lived through. Every concept, tool, and framework in this course is something she had to learn the hard way—on her own, without a guide, and often through heartbreak. Over time, she realized there was a better way to learn these lessons... more intentionally, more compassionately, and far earlier in life.
As a recovering limerence-aholic who put in the work, Tammy is now happily married to the love of her life. Is the relationship perfect? Not even close. But it is grounded, resilient, and built on intentional choice. She had to unlearn old patterns that led her to pick the wrong partners, and learned how to instead choose a partner who stands with her in the storms of life, not create them.
If you’re tired of repeating the same patterns, questioning your instincts, or wondering why dating feels so heavy, YOU are who Tammy was thinking of when she created this course! Tammy doesn’t promise fairy tales or guarantees, but she does offer clarity, tools, and a compassionate guide for doing this work more intentionally than she ever had the chance to.
You don’t have to do it perfectly. You don’t have to do it all at once.
You just don’t have to do it alone.